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Sunday, October 14, 2012

When Words Weigh More Than Bricks



Very early in life kids learn that little ditty, " Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me!"  That is true only in a direct and primary sense.  But,words can hurt the heart and a person's emotions.  When the wrong words are spoken to our kids and spouses, it can set the stage for future negative actions.  Words that rip at a person's self-esteem, especially between spouses, can act like getting hit in the face with a brick.  When we speak condescendingly to our kids, it can be like they just had the emotional wind kicked out of them.  Here, I am speaking from experience and I am not paraphrasing from the latest best selling psycho-babble tract.  Yes - I've been there, done that, as the thrasher of cutting words, and the recipient of painful judgement.  Like it or not, words are the forerunner of future actions; words set the stage for future acts in the video of our lives.  Moreover, since we live in a world of cause and effect, those words do come back to us; positive words yield positive effects while negative words can produce living nightmares.  Carefully chose your words and put a padlock on your tongue.  If you need to run around the block to cool your temper before you speak, do so.  Use those bricks to build a strong house that no big, bad wolf can blow down.

                                                   


                                                      Copyright @2102 Terry Unger

       

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